Don’t give up on dream

They said she had “no talent.” And the attractive 15-year-old must have been crushed.
Since a young child, she had been star-struck. But growing up poor, she had little opportunity to try out her chosen career.
Then, when she was in her early teens, her widowed mother scraped together enough money to send her to a drama school in New York City. And now this!
The famed John Murray Anderson School for the Dramatic Arts had dismissed her—saying she is “wasting her time and ours.” The letter went on to say she is “too shy” to succeed on the stage and she also has “no talent.”
Thus, this budding actress from Jamestown, N.Y. was tossed aside by the professionals.
Her name, as you already may have guessed, was Lucille Desiree Ball. Fortunately, that cruel assessment didn’t stop the “queen of comedy.”
Although it was badly stated, she knew there was some truth to the statement. In the first place, her natural shyness increased because she was in awe of the school’s star pupil, Bette Davis.
Much later, Lucy admitted she was painfully shy at the time. And she also said, “I had no talent–I couldn’t dance, I couldn’t sing.”
What she did have was determination and a dream–a dream too big to ever give up.
As an adult, Lucy said, “I cured myself of shyness when it finally occurred to me that people didn’t think about me half as much as I gave them credit for. The truth was, nobody gave a damn.
“Like most teenagers, I was far too self-centered. When I stopped being prisoner to what I worried was others’ opinions of me, I became more confident and free.”
She also found out that she didn’t have to dance or sing. “I could talk!” And the Lucy we all loved (and still love) was born!
I, personally, love Lucy and recently bought all nine seasons on DVD of her fabulous show “I Love Lucy.” I try to watch one or two episodes every day to keep my spirits up.
Lucy would have liked that. She understood how important it is to be optimistic.
“One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged,” she said. “Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.”
And Lucy also knew how important it was for her to “love Lucy.”
“I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
So the most important thing with this amazing woman was encapsulated in her still popular show, “I Love Lucy.” Her creed is strangely reminiscent of what the Bible says: “Love your neighbour as yourself.”
The most important thing to remember about this “star of stars” is not the way she made us laugh, but what we can learn about the importance of living a consciously optimistic life.
And always remember that laughter is part of it!
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