Attitude really is everything

Several years ago, I discovered Keith Harrell’s book “Attitude Is Everything: Ten Life-Changing Steps to Turning Attitude into Action.”
Since that time, whenever I find myself in a bad mood, Harrell’s 10 steps help me turn it around.
•Step 1—Understand the power of attitude.
Adjust your attitude and change your life, says Harrell, because attitude affects everything you do.
And, of course, a positive attitude works better than a negative one. So try to be positive at home, with your friends, and in your community.
It’s worth it!
•Step 2—Take charge of your life.
Remember, you have a choice about your attitude.
Harrell quotes J. Martin Kohe: “The greatest power that a person possesses is the power to choose.” So what are you going to choose–a positive attitude or a negative one?
Even though it isn’t always easy, happiness is yours to create.
•Step 3—Identify “bad” and “good” attitudes.
Harrell identifies three types of bad attitude baggage: “if-only,” “what-now,” and “what-if.”
Be careful of negative inner dialogue. “If only I had spent more time with my children.” “I’ve been downsized: what now?” “If only I had thought before I said that.”
“What if I end up alone?” “What if I have a health problem?”
If you’re stuck on the if-onlys, what-nows, and what-ifs of life, you have no energy to focus on the important present and plan for a productive and satisfying future.
•Step 4—Change your bad attitudes to good.
You can’t expect other people to change your attitude. It’s your job!
Gratitude for what you have goes a long way toward getting rid of negativity.
•Step 5—Find your passion.
Think about what you would like to do with your life. What did you miss earlier? Or what wild ideas do you have now?
If you want to try skydiving, don’t let age get in the way. Remember, former president George Bush Sr. celebrated his 85th birthday by skydiving!
•Step 6—Be pre-active.
Notice that’s not “pro-active,” but “pre-active.” Being pre-active means trying to figure out the future and then planning accordingly (in other words, intelligent planning to make your life better).
•Step 7—Motivate yourself.
Acquire the tools to jump-start yourself and help turn your attitude into action. Think about the power of words—even the words you say to yourself.
Instead of saying “I’m not artistic,” say “I am creative in my own way.” Instead of “I’m too old,” say “Age is only a number.”
•Step 8—Build supportive relationships.
Accept others unconditionally, be trustworthy, do nice things without expecting anything in return, be loyal, listen to other people’s point of view, and keep away from negative people.
•Step 9—See change as opportunity.
Turn change to a challenge. Remember, sometimes change is better.
•Step 10—Leave a lasting legacy.
Make a mark that cannot be erased, says Harrell, by making a difference in someone else’s life.
And as you give to others, you, in turn, will have more joy and satisfaction in your own life.
So those are Harrell’s 10 steps to improve your attitude and your life. For more inspiration, order the book from your local bookstore or download it to your Kindle.
We all need attitude adjustments sometimes and following Harrell’s suggestions is a great start!