CANADA—There is a moment in conversation with Meggie Cywink where her voice changes.
Not louder. Not angrier.
Just tired in the way granite is tired after carrying winter for centuries.
“Families are no longer asking to be consulted as an afterthought,” she said quietly. “Families are asking to lead.”
For more than three decades, Ms. Cywink has carried the unresolved murder of her sister, Sonya Nadine Mae Cywink, like a stone in her chest.
In August of 1994, Sonya Cywink, a 31-year-old pregnant mother from Whitefish River First Nation, disappeared from London. Days later, her body was discovered near the Southwold Earthworks in Elgin County. Her murder remains unsolved. Thirty-one years later, Meggie Cywink is still searching. Not only for answers in her sister’s case, but for the deeper architecture beneath it all, the systems, institutions and cycles of violence she believes continue feeding Canada’s ongoing MMIWG2S+ crisis.
Now she and dozens of families across the country are openly challenging another layer of that system: the national organizations funded in the name of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women, Girls and Two-Spirit people.
In an April 30 open letter addressed to Prime Minister Mark Carney, federal ministers and opposition leaders, families connected to some of Canada’s most painful unsolved cases are demanding audits, accountability and direct family-led oversight of federal MMIWG2S+ funding.
“We are writing to say they do not speak for us,” the letter states of several federally funded organizations. Among those named are the Native Women’s Association of Canada, the National Family and Survivors Circle, Les Femmes Michif Otipemisiwak and Giganawenimaanaanig.
The signatories include relatives of women such as Amber Tuccaro, Maisy Odjick and Sonya Cywink.
The letter argues millions in federal dollars have flowed into organizations while many families continue struggling alone, searching for loved ones with little direct support.
“There are families who can’t even afford gas money to keep searching,” Ms. Cywink said during an interview with The Expositor. “Meanwhile millions of dollars are moving through organizations and families still don’t know where that money’s going.”
She pointed specifically to concerns surrounding the National Family and Survivors Circle.
“A friend of mine discovered they received over seven million dollars,” she said. “And now they’re receiving more funding again. Families want accountability. That’s not unreasonable.”
The letter calls for a forensic audit into how federal MMIWG2S+ funding has been used.
For Ms. Cywink, the frustration is not simply financial, it is philosophical.
Again and again during the conversation, she returned to one central concern: colonial policy regarding First Nations women’s struggles.
“These organizations say they’re national,” she said. “But Indigenous women aren’t voting for these people. Families don’t understand how they get into those positions.”
She contrasted that structure with traditional clan-based governance systems rooted in collective responsibility rather than centralized authority. “When you follow the clan system, everybody has responsibility,” she said. “Everybody is supposed to help each other. When you create hierarchy, power gets concentrated. And that can become dangerous.”
The conversation drifted far beyond policy language and government terminology. It moved into deeper waters, grief, exploitation, lateral violence, trauma and the uneasy relationship between colonial systems and nonprofit structures attempting to address colonial harm.
Ms. Cywink spoke candidly about what she views as a growing profiting surrounding Indigenous suffering.
“The issue before Canada is no longer awareness,” the letter states. “Families have watched substantial federal investments flow into organizational structures while many of the people most directly impacted continue to receive little or no direct support.”
That sentence hangs heavy because awareness has already come.
Canada held the National Inquiry into Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls. It produced 231 Calls for Justice. It generated headlines, reports, panels, consultations and commitments. Yet Indigenous women continue disappearing.
Meanwhile, she says, families continue carrying the actual work.
For years, Ms. Cywink has been building her own database documenting cases of missing and murdered Indigenous people. It now contains more than 2,100 entries dating back centuries.
And inside those numbers, she says, patterns begin revealing themselves.
“You see residential school survivors. Child welfare involvement. Foster care. Adoption. Trafficking vulnerabilities. Poverty,” she said. “After enough cases, patterns emerge over and over again.”
If prevention is ever going to become real, she argues, those patterns must be confronted honestly. “If we don’t understand the patterns, there’s no way to prevent the missing and murders.”
At times during the conversation, Ms. Cywink’s words moved from analysis into something more intimate and painful. She spoke about Indigenous youth leaving remote communities for urban centres like Thunder Bay, Ottawa and London to attend school.
“Predators can spot vulnerable people a mile away,” she said. “They know exactly who to target.”
Human trafficking, addiction and homelessness are not isolated crises, she explained, but interconnected outcomes of long-standing systemic violence. “It’s all connected,” she said. “Residential schools. Child welfare. Poverty. Trauma. Addiction. Missing women. None of these things happen separately.”
Still, amid the heaviness, Ms. Cywink repeatedly returned to children. To prevention. To hope.
Earlier this month she joined students at Birch Island during a MMIWG2S+ awareness walk where children carried eagle staffs and wore handmade red dresses through the community.
“This is action,” she said. “We are beyond awareness now.” The phrase surfaced repeatedly.
Beyond awareness. Because after decades of inquiries and reports, Ms. Cywink says Canada can no longer pretend it simply does not know. “If people still don’t know,” she said, “they have their heads buried in the sand.”
But she also acknowledged many survivors avoid confronting the crisis because it reopens wounds of their own. “It turns something up inside people,” she said softly. “A lot of people are survivors too.”
Toward the end of the conversation, Ms. Cywink reflected on how tightly interwoven Indigenous communities remain across the country.
“The Indigenous world is so small,” she said. “Everybody knows somebody connected to somebody.”
That intimacy changes the nature of grief. These are not distant tragedies occurring in abstraction. They are cousins, sisters, friends, roommates, aunties, daughters.
And after 31 years, Ms. Cywink has stopped waiting for institutions to carry the weight alone.
Families, she says, are ready to carry it themselves. “We want to direct the funding,” the open letter states. “We want to address the issues we know are continuing. We want to create deep and sustainable prevention measures.”
