Korean weddings very symbolic

In preparation for the marriage of our son, Adam, and his fiancée, Meesun, Marnie and I viewed a YouTube video several times to understand what would take place.
It was very informative and had no resemblance to a wedding you might be a guest at in North America or Europe. I am pleased that we had watched and learned of the symbolism of the Korean wedding ceremony.
The bride and groom chose to have the traditional Korean wedding. By traditional, I mean their wedding clothes were the historical colourful “Handboks.” Adam wore a burgundy-coloured Handbok with a brilliant embroidered scene of a goose diving into water on his chest.
Meesun was adorned with a vibrant spring green coat with appliquéd gold trim and she had her hair done in traditional Korean style. The underskirt of the bride was a beautiful pink silk fabric.
After the ceremony, the bride and groom changed into more casual Korean dress, with the bride shedding the coat and wearing a softer green jacket and pink high-waisted skirt.
The groom changed to a pink damask jacket that showed the patterns of chrysanthemums, as well as a white damask silk shirt and co-ordinated blue damask slacks.
They were a very colourful and beautiful couple.
The wedding was filled with symbolism. For instance, the groom offered up a goose to the mother of the bride as a symbol of a long-lasting relationship (geese “marry” for life).
He makes a ritualistic visit to the mother’s home and the mother then decides on whether or not she will accept him to be the husband of the daughter. The groom leaves the home and goes to the marriage area waiting the arrival of the bride.
The bride slips out the side door of the mother’s home and, accompanied by her mother, walks around to the ceremony area. The bride hides her face from the groom through most of the service, holding high a white flower embroidered silk cloth.
The bride faces the groom and neither can see the other because of the silk cloth held high by the bride.
The officiant begins speaking and both wash their hands marking their purity. Between the two is a table filled with a bonsai tree, dates, chestnuts, and a bamboo plant.
The officiant paused and then the bride, assisted by two officials, lowers herself the mat and bows three times to the groom. The groom reciprocates with a single bow to the bride.
The two then share a small gourd of “Soju”–a potent clear distilled rice wine.
The officiant speaks again and on pausing, the bride again bows three times to the groom. The groom responds and bows once again to the bride. Both rise and the bride lowered her cloth shield so the groom would see her for the first time.
Both then turn and face those in attendance for the wedding.
There was no “you may now kiss the bride.” The officiant may have introduced the couple but I don’t know since it was all spoken in old Korean. Even my daughter-in-law was not sure of everything that was said since she does not fully understand the old Korean language.
The bride and groom then retired and greeted all of the guests in the restaurant, where a buffet of Korean foods and delicacies were offered to the guests.
There were no speeches, nor was there a dance, and within a couple of hours everyone had dispersed from the wedding site.
Korea House, where the marriage was performed, was the perfect setting.

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