Raise heroes

Dear editor:
I was reading the letters to the editor in the Times last week, one of them was very familiar to me. Sheila McMahon had some decorations stolen off her deck between 1 a.m. and 6 a.m. on the previous Sunday morning (Dec. 9).
I, too, lost decorations that night (around 11 p.m.) I was still awake when a dark-coloured pickup pulled into my yard and the individuals took the Christmas wreath off my front door.
I had some mixed feelings—anger, disbelief, shock, and a sense of violation. Someone took something of mine.
I understand how Sheila feels and she’s right, you didn’t just steal from the homeowner, you also took from the whole family. It was premeditated—you planned your intent (as Sheila wrote, you had to work to take that penguin off her deck).
Today a penguin, a Christmas wreath; tomorrow you vandalize property and then in the future you harm someone during your pre-planned, intended fun. Then what will you do?
I say shame on you—and shame on your parents. Yes, shame on your parents.
I don’t know how old you are (old enough to drive), but we all have parents.
Many people would say you can’t blame the parents for the crimes of their children and I say, “Oh yes you can.” The child of a tiger is a tiger.
Somewhere along your parenting road, you missed something. Don’t cop out by saying I did my best. Don’t do your best, just do it—raise darn fine human beings. Know without a question in your heart of hearts you did it.
I ask every parent out there, do you know for 100 percent that it was not your teenager or young adult who created this violation? If not, you have some work to do.
I have young adult children and I tell you, they’d never do such a thing. They understand loss, they understand violation, and they know the difference between right and wrong (they were taught).
They are darn fine human beings. They know there is never anything so much fun if it comes at the expense of others.
You don’t raise heroes, you raise sons and daughters, and if you treat them like heroes, they’ll turn out to be heroes. Too bad you weren’t treated like a hero.
So there you have it. I hope your Christmas is merry, and in the future you become a hero instead of a loser.
Raise heroes, people, raise heroes.
Thanks for the Christmas spirit.
Bonnie Allan
Fort Frances, Ont.